teen reality panelists reveal their favorite movies of all time

annie hall

Annie Hall” (1977)

Clouds of Sils Maria” (2015)

Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows: Part 2” (2011)

To Kill a Mockingbird” (1962)

The Wolf of Wall Street” (2013)

Stacey Keba

West Chester University

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eight reality alumni offer real-life advice for surviving college


Who better to tell you about what to expect in college than the people who are living it now?

Our panel of experts includes reality alumni Samuel Byers (University of Pennsylvania junior), Sarah Cantymagli (Bloomsburg University sophomore), Emily Franko (Boston College junior), Laura Genn (Liberty University freshman), Julia Joseph (Loyola University Maryland sophomore), Stacey Keba (West Chester University freshman), Megan Kloss (St. Joseph’s University freshman) and Jesse Pazdera (Haverford College senior).

Here’s there advice on a variety of topics:

On romance and social life

Leave your door open!

Say hi to the people who walk by your dorm room and get to know them the first few weeks of school (I made my first college friend this way). Keeping it open the rest of the year is a great way to socialize and relax while you’re doing work, too.

— Samuel

Don’t stop making friends after you have friends

Sometimes homework hits like a blizzard and you can’t even locate those first friends in the whirlwind. Sometimes a girl gets a boyfriend and falls off the face of the earth. Sometimes your male friends congregate around a PS4 in their dorm when you were hoping they’d emerge to hang out with you. Sometimes that fabulous friend will be studying abroad next semester. Ultimately, continuing to put yourself out there is worth it — my closest confidants are all people I hardly knew until the second month of school.

— Laura

Become friends with the people in your major

You will be spending a lot of time with those people, especially if your major is small. They become people you can bounce ideas off of and good study buddies!

— Sarah

Have fun, but be smart about it

As an education major, having “fun” on the weekends is a terrifying concept, because if you get an underage (citation) even if it’s by association, you can kiss your degree and any future jobs bye-bye. So, be responsible. Be nice to the security guard in your building if you do decide to venture out. Or, keep it safe, stay in, save yourself the paranoia and play Cards Against Humanity and the expansion packs you brought — you will become great friends with everyone on your floor.

— Stacey

Don’t prioritize people who think you’re optional

Girls, it doesn’t matter how much you love his personality — if a boy can’t be bothered to text you first, he’s just not that into you. If he still shows interest in sudden waves before swinging back into casual, friendly disinterest, he isn’t contemplating a change of heart — he just likes the attention. If he’s happy to see you but you had to invite yourself to his event tonight, he’s just not worth it.

Don’t waste a single second, a single tear, or a single night that you could have spent with a friend who values you. Your feelings are valid, but just keep being your beautiful self and wait for the boy who wants you as much as you want him, not the boy who needs to be convinced.

— Laura

Enjoy being single

Just like in high school, there will probably come a time when all your friends are in relationships, but you aren’t. Don’t fret over this … enjoy being single. You don’t have to worry about making long distance work when you decide on a spur-of-the-moment decision to jet off to Australia or Munich the following semester, or take that dope internship in NYC over the summer.

— Stacey

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reality panelists share their 'real' new year resolutions

reality resolutions

Now that the holidays are over, a storm is coming. You’ve probably seen the memes, the references and the jokes as you’ve scrolled through social media, all condemning both New Year’s resolutions and the millions of people who make them.

And here on reality, we have all fallen into the trap of letting the infamous mantra “New Year, New Me” guide us into previous new years. All for about a month, that is.

But we’re teenagers, and our lives are busy and hectic, between all the malarkey that comes with school (AP cumulative midterms, anyone?) and awkward (or extremely successful) social lives, so it’s downright unlikely that we’ll have time to exercise, become organized or chug those eight glasses of water EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Heck, we barely have time to sleep for more than 40 minutes.

So this year, we’re switching things up and making “resolutions” that we’ll probably excel at while we do what we do best: Seeing how many hours of Netflix we can clock in before our impending pile of obligations causes us distress … while we click “Play next episode.”

My “resolution”: Settle on an Instagram theme to make my account more aesthetically pleasing.

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dear kids of cb east, bucks county, america, + society


img_2805.jpgDear Kids of CB East, Bucks County, America, and Society:

Tonight, in just a couple of minutes, a house the next street over from me went up in a red plume of smoke. It was the house of a childhood friend. It was the house right next to my Uncle’s, a house next to my father’s colleague. And in just a few seconds of seeing a trailer destroyed, in just a few seconds of seeing a neighborhood friend put it out with the help of his fire company, and in just a few seconds of seeing the kindness, the helpfulness, the caring…I felt so angry—not at what I was seeing, but at your biased misconceptions of us.

I want to address that.

I want to extend an apology to some of you. I am sorry to those of you who find the existence of my neighborhood an embarrassment and disgrace to even exist. I am sorry that you find a mobile home (aka trailer park) nasty and grimy, unaesthetically pleasing, and filled with people you view as trash that are unfit to walk among you, share classes with you, cover a work shift for you, ride the same school bus at you…

But that’s your problem if you want to call us awful names, give us the finger when we brake in front of you to turn into our development, or start a fight. To the kids I went to high school with, I’m not saying you need to grow up because many of you are already young adults capable of making decisions on how you choose to live your life. It’s just my opinion that negativity won’t get you very far. As long as you’re happy with yourself, I forgive you…although most people say I shouldn’t.

And this is why.

Sure, doctors may not live here, but we have nurses and phlebotomists. We have EMTs and fireman. We house the people that do your landscaping, fix your electric, build your extensions, change your oil, and pump your gas when you’re too lazy to get out of your car.

You may be right in saying that there are a lot of illegal immigrants in this neighborhood and those who have less then perfect pasts, but just like you, the people of Valley View are humans and should be treated with dignity—especially KIDS who have had no choice in choosing to live here. And don’t you dare think that I am giving you a chance to bash their parents or guardians.

The reason why so many parents move into this neighborhood is so their children can go to one of the best school districts in the state, in the country, but cannot simply afford expensive pieces of real estate. I want to point out to you that this is a Central Bucks EAST neighborhood. So then why is it that a separate bus comes every weekday morning to transport most high school students to West?

Even though it is true that a select few “entitled” Tohickon Middle School and East High School students can bully peers so much into transferring schools, it isn’t fair. You may see us as the bad kids, the ones who will result to punching you in the face if you insult us, but behind that is the breaking of a student’s self-esteem, the breaking of a student’s desire to achieve in school or out. And, it’s frustrating.

It’s frustrating that when I go to get my prescriptions filled, I get into a conversation with the pharmacist who congratulates me on making it through East. Her son just stared middle school, and already he wants nothing to do with my high school. So, she asked me how I did it, so she can pass the advice along, and this is what I said, “I didn’t advertise where I lived.”

She pursed her lips, and offered a shy smile.

What I didn’t tell her was that I never told my friends my address until my Junior Year, hardly had them over. Never dated before I was 18 or gave a guy my number…except for once which ended in an invitation for a booty call. I cried myself to sleep for a week, because he called me a worthless trashy slut when I said, “no.” I worked too hard to not fall into the stereotype of “trailer trash”—took too many honors and APs, tried to involve myself too much in extra curriculars, all while battling depression, all while developing an anxiety disorder. It crippled me, and my senior year of high school, I lived in guidance.

I don’t harbor any resent, or regrets, or judgments, because overall I loved my high school experience. I wouldn’t be the person I am today without it, but some days life was awful because it took all my energy not let man drag me down enough to hate them.

Just like a lot of kids I know who grew up in Valley View, I find happiness in non-material goods, and in accepting that everyone has their own free will. I look for happiness inside myself, because at the end of the day, if my home were to burn down in 2 minutes…burn all my belongings…burn all my money…I know I would be alright. As long as my dad, my three dogs, and I went unscathed, I know I would be happy, and most importantly, thankful.

Would you? I hope so.

voices from our past share their reality memories

reality turns 20

Stacey Keba

Central Bucks East High School

Years on reality: 2013-14

Even though I was only a panelist during my senior year of high school, the amount of memories I accumulated during that time are immeasurable! The one that stands out from all others, for me, is before I even had the opportunity to meet Andy, Tom and my fellow panelists.

In August 2013, a few months after applying for reality, I was volunteering at the Dublin Carnival with one of my best friends. When it was slow, I yanked out my phone to see an email I had been waiting for: whether or not I had been selected as a panelist. I was so nervous, it took me an hour to work up the nerve to open it (even though I saw it contained an attachment, and attachments are always a good sign). When I finally did and I saw that I was selected, I screamed and threw my phone in celebration like it was a trivial piece of confetti.

At the time I started, reality just seemed like it would be a cool thing to do, and I’d meet that niche of friends I had been waiting for, all while getting to write! And while reality gave that to me, I didn’t realize all of the doors it would open, like being able to give motivational speeches, writing about DigiTour and being accepted into college. But above all, it gave me courage and confidence to pursue writing as a career instead of a hobby.

Right now, as I finish up my gap year from college, I’m busy editing my novel so I can send it out to agents this winter before heading back to West Chester University.

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Interested to know how Reality started? Editor, Andy Vineberg, talks about anything and everything since the section’s inception in 1995. Read here!